DEAR WADENYA- MY GOOD INTENTIONS
Posted by Isaac Amo Kyereme | Posted in Culture, Letters to the editor, Sports, America, Personal,
I am sick and tired of dealing with "Users" and" Haters". Users always take without ever Giving and Haters are filled with so much Envy, Jealousy and Hatred for the person they receive from. I am blessed to be on the giving end. I have given my time, advise, my home and energy, but my reward has been insults and gossips about " I think that I am all that". My recent experience occurred when
a couple who lived outside the city limits called, and begged me to allow them to stay in my home for a week while they attended some church conference. They claimed not to have money for the hotel. Reluctantly I agreed with a few conditions only after they assured me that they would leave each morning and come back late.
The was not the case, I later found out that the church event was in the evenings through the wee hours. During the day my house guest helped themselves to my kitchen as they cooked my food, turned both the TVs on and had the Audacity to use my bath towels, and can you believe that I had to supply them with bath soap and toothpaste. Disgusted over my towels, I told
them to keep the towels. I was not amused that they raided my kitchen but they assured me they would replace items, well that never happened and to add insult to injury, they cooked just for themselves. On the the fifth day, I could not take it anymore. I came home, tired and just wanted to take to soak in the bathtub, only to discover that my bubble bath soap was gone and I found them entertaining some guests in my house with my food and drinks!.
I called the couple in the bedroom and told them to leave my house with their guests .I was done. Their response was a mouthful of insults, many of which I have heard many times" Their house located over 90 miles away was bigger than mine, People avoid me because I do not like to see a person progress, How people talk behind my back and say that I am negative person, and the sermon included peoples names and what they said about me. The Interesting part of all this is that all these people mentioned have used and taken from me one way or the other. They all shared
the same demons ,the syndrome of "Users and Haters". I believe that they all must had something to say because I put an end to their living off me. I must have rebuked or corrected them, but to be honest, they all have not one positive thing that they can contribute towards my life. They can never help anyone and they have not achieved any thing in life.I cut these low achievers and
day dreamers out of my life and they are still talking about me!. I don't want to help anyone anymore. If I don’t help anyone, there will be no cause for People to insult me.
Dear Loving soul.
I feel your pain as I have experienced similar incidents and have heard many people complain of such betrayals. Let me start by defining the problem.. It is called "Envy "which means "to bear a grudge toward someone due to coveting what that person has or enjoys."
A person envies someone towards whom he has ill will because of that person's success, achievements, and the like.
He envies something that belongs to someone else and to which he has no right or claim. Secondly, this disease as I refer to
it begun in the bible between two brothers, Cain and Abel. You see some people are so envious of others that it becomes an obsession to attempt to bring the person down, Anything you may say is misconstrued or considered an attack ,
Do not allow them to pull you down to their level or define you. When such people utilize their one skill "Use and Take" from You,they believe that they weakened you.
I have experienced situations where a friendly and positive advise to these group of people turned out to be a lecture. My suggestion is that you cut them off from your life as they carry negative Aura and have nothing productive to offer you. Unfortunately, these people do not know the spiritual component of your being.
God has given you the spiritual gift of Giving and since you utilize your gift you are blessed. No amount of things they take from you will bring you down, instead it will lift you.
What I suggest is that, use Wisdom and
Discernment when you offer people assistance. You can assist without being in contact with them, give referrals to homeless shelter or churches and let these Agencies deal with them. At times just Listen to their problem and take no action. You need not bring them to your home. Donate to charities, Feed the hungry or volunteer at
hospitals. At times is it best to allow people to learn from their own
mistakes. Focus on yourself and do not waste your precious time on people who will never be grateful. Understand the higher you climb the more they will talk negatively about you. Shut that door for you to enjoy the presence of productive people with a positive Aura..Do not place pearls before swine’s, they will not appreciate It
Here is something for you. Matthew 22.324 The LORD says to my Lord“ Sit at my right hand until I make your enemies a footstool for your feet..and Psalm 109.3-5
